Earlier this year, I did a series of 4 articles describing the abusive behaviour and actions of The British Royal Family, UK Media towards the Sussexes, particularly Duchess Meghan– in particular the Royal Rota cartel and specific Royal sycophants in TV and Radio, and certain factions of the general public via their social media accounts. Some of those factions are about to feel the hand of the law; others remain to be seen.
The Abuse of The Duchess of Sussex Part 1: The Landscape
We are now in the 8th month since the step down from senior Royal duties was announced, and 5 months since official freedom began. I, like all of you have watched the vitriolic fall out and venom spouted by those left behind. Truly disgusting to watch unfold.
The Duke and Duchess of Sussex were always destined to do well, but the gutter behaviour by some on view to a global audience – and God knows what went on behind the scenes – had the complete opposite effect than the protagonists expected. Harry and Meghan’s light began to glow even brighter on the world stage.
On the other hand, the over reaction by the mouthpieces of the UK Royal family and pals has been in a new spotlight, and let’s just say, they haven’t done themselves any favours. They protest too much. One wonders, why?
In my opinion the antics of all the key players in the psychological abuse of the Sussexes, and for the most part Meghan, has been an indelible stain on the United Kingdom, its aristocracy and its government. The extreme groups within the country always existed, but now they have been given an environment to openly display their views mainly because, they have taken a cue from the top. Yes there are those currently serving time for criminal acts based on those views, but there are many more out in society, who pose a serious threat to the Sussexes and to any societal group who is not deemed to be welcomed in the UK.
I don’t know what planet the Royal family and the media friends were living on, when they thought that three years of abuse would not result in some consequences. Further, that the Duchess will leave the UK, son in tow, but that somehow the Duke would just wave goodbye and stay put.
It seems that perhaps marriage vows mean something different within The Firm than outside of it. Meaning that, even though the couple swear before God to be there for better or for worse, some in the institution and the wider public who support them, fully expected Harry to choose the institution over his wife. It makes all the ‘head of the church and values talk’ seem just pharisaic.
The Abuse of The Duchess of Sussex Part 2: Characterizing The Abuse
In the world of UK Monarchy, the Firm is the centre of everything. All their actions are supposed to prolong the life of The Firm – nothing else matters. So narrow is this vision that, no one considered that they would lose the most popular Royal, next to the Queen.
I would argue that their action over the last 3 decades, together with their behaviour towards the only person of colour in their family this last three plus years, has ensured the demise of the Monarchy in the UK. It will not survive another 3 decades. People will try to blame the introduction of someone into the ‘clan’ who was not and would never be accepted into it.
In my humble opinion, the rot set in 3 decades before Meghan arrived, and now with her arrival, racism reared its head and supercharged their misogyny. For the 2nd time, The Firm were confronted by a woman with independent thought, Princess Diana being the first. Meghan was seen as a threat because of her ethnicity and her intelligence and strong mind, with a complete denial of decades of behaviour and practice gone before. She took all the frustrations and nastiness that they threw at her. Rather than fold, she stood up. HE stood up too, unwilling to subject him and his family to relentless abuse, and they walked away together as the team they were from day one. The team they told us all they were going to be.
Now, all hell has broken loose. How are the abusers handling the separation? Poorly, but let’s look at it through the lens of The Seven Stages of Grief (Following Divorce or Loss). We will use the modified Kubler-Ross Model.
The 7 Stages model does not necessarily have to take place in that order, but all stages need to be covered at some point, in order to move forward. Where people have setbacks and fall into depression or anger for example, before reaching acceptance and looking ahead, it is because they have missed out one or more of the earlier stages, which has been festering in the back of their minds.
I believe that the key players in the abuse, have gone through points 1 2 & 3, and the family and the Royal Rota are edging towards stage 4. E.g. offers now apparently being mooted about the Sussexes working part time – something that was thrown out without any discussion as it was considered unworkable. Yet this apparent part time working now only seems to apply to Harry because it has been stated and implied in news stories and by a number of public figure haters that only Harry is welcome. They seem to have conceded that Meghan will not be back, but might still be in denial about why Harry left. In their minds, she made him leave, so he must want to come back right?
This presupposes that Meghan and Harry want to come back. The Sussexes certainly do not need to, and currently don’t appear to want to return. I don’t know in what realm they believe that Harry would abandon his wife and child to return, to the people who put his child and wife life at risk, as well as his own on occasions by extremists. Why would anyone return to the control of the abusers?
This of course was before the firm tested their options, which seemed to be dead on arrival. First, Charles, Camilla, William and Kate were the next fab four. God only knows what happened to that bright idea. Then of course Sophie Wessex was the next Meghan, but some thought that a Ford Fiesta was a sad replacement for a Lamborghini. Some even floated the idea of recruiting William’s friend who is married to Prince George’s teacher to for a new fab four. The struggle…
The Abuse of The Duchess of Sussex Part 3: The Protagonists
Looking at the table below you can see how some of the unfolding events/actions of the Royal Family and their media darlings have fitted into the various stages.
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Since the publication of a few extracts and the subsequent release of the book Finding Freedom (written by Omid Scobie and Caroline Durand), the Royal Family and the Royal Rota have been at pains to try and do damage limitation. One example that they chose to comment on, to defend their lack of any public support for Meghan relative to the media onslaught of psychological abuse, the Royal family via their spokespeople, aka courtiers and Royal Rota gave six examples of what in their opinion was the Monarchy publicly speaking up for Meghan. It matters not what the apparent 6 occasions or topics were in my mind, because over a quarter of a million articles were written about Meghan in a 12 month period, most of which were vile. So, if the best the firm could come up with is half a dozen instances of support over a 3 year period, they need to take a seat.
Because of the hatred stoked by the media against Meghan, two people are currently in prison for threatening to kill Harry for marrying a black woman. Never mind the threats collectively to Harry, Meghan and their son. Six instances… they ought to be ashamed. I suspect they aren’t ashamed though, as it was designed to be that way. It is just very inconvenient that the firm, that it is playing out so publicly.
The truth is, nothing has changed. The slave mentality still exists, now with the offer made to Harry. Come back and be a rubbing rag for your brother; do most of the work, but let him take the credit for its outputs, be a crutch to the Cambridges until their children are old enough to carry out duties, and then you can go into oblivion because we won’t need you anymore. Not in so many words, but implicit in their modus operandi. Yea right. So inviting.
The Abuse of The Duchess of Sussex Part 4: So What Happens Now? Modernise or Wither Under “Tradition”?
There have been various attempts to make life difficult for them in Canada and subsequently when they moved to California. So much effort put into hunting down the couple to find out where and how they were living. Security was no longer provided by the Royal family from April 2020, so the UK tabloids paid for paparazzi to make life difficult for the Sussexes. Unlike the UK, privacy laws in Canada and the USA are very different, so things like flying drones 20 feet above the property where the Sussexes were staying and taking photos which have since been sold on to various outlets is against the law. Legal action is being pursued. This is just one of many attempts to force the Sussexes to return to the Royal fold, because the harassment there is of a better nature??
The signs were there. The couple took their dogs with them to Canada – a sign that home was not going to be the UK soon. When the couple came back to finish their public engagements, they did not bring their son, and Meghan soon returned to Canada while Harry stayed to finalise the terms of their exit.
All that the hateful behaviour of the Monarchy and the Royal Rota and haters in the UK has done, is speed up the iconic status that the Sussexes would have achieved anyway. Now the Sussexes are operating on a whole new level of power and interest, and the antics of the Royal family and the Royal Rota is seen as kindergarten activity. Now the international community see it for what it is, and worse than that, they view UK Royalty very different to how they used to prior to Meghan joining and now left the family.
The spectacle of the Commonwealth Day service at Westminster Abbey on 9th March 2020 is notable. The international community, both those present as well as those watching, saw the UK royalty behave so unprofessionally and so lacking grace and politeness that, they will never live that down. Never. If anyone had any doubt about the top tier of UK Royalty and their feelings towards the Sussexes, Meghan in particular, there was evidence from start to finish of how caustic those individuals behaved – in public.
Harry’s face for most of the service, when looking at his family, was a picture. He must have been ashamed of his family’s behaviour. Meghan remained serene and graceful throughout, no doubt knowing that she would be boarding a plane within hours and leaving this toxic environment once and for all. Freedom was close. Yes, Harry and Meghan waved goodbye to the Royal family and Royal Rota press gang and stepped into a world of love and appreciation and success.
Because of what has been publicly witnessed of their abysmal treatment, I believe the Sussexes will receive the support in their new work and private life that they didn’t get from their family. Well played Royal Rota. Well played courtiers. Well played Royal family. It was all avoidable but you all chose to do otherwise. You reap what you sow.
The pandemic may have slowed down and prevented some plans from even getting off the ground, yet, the number of things that the Sussexes have managed to do during the period has put the other Royals to shame.
It was recently reported that the Sussexes have purchased a home of their own and that they have been there since early July. Harry and Meghan are operating on a global stage now, securing projects and contracts with big players in the field. The Sussexes are earning their money, making their way, severing burdensome financial ties, and engaging with their charities as well as forging links with new ones. They have nowhere to go but forward.
The clowns in the Gilded Ghetto will implode soon, not least because UK taxpayers will soon be asking, why they are subsidizing one of the richest families in the world, for no measurable benefit to the country. The two people who brought in the most interest to the Royal Family along with a value-based working model, were bullied out of the country because of jealousy by weak ego driven individuals in the Royal Family. Now they have got what they wanted. Harry and Meghan are gone. The Sussexes are iconic already globally and their star is rising fast. Let’s see if the firm can move on too.
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