Opinion: The British Royal Family Have a Family Problem

By Irene 17 Comments

1 Cor 12:20 As it is, there are many parts. But there is only one body.

Unless you have been hibernating under a rock, you more than likely have heard that Prince Harry, The Duke of Sussex and his wife Meghan, The Duchess of Sussex announced on January 8th 2020, their decision to step back from full-time senior royal duties. Since then, and following what was billed as the Sandringham summit, it was agreed that for the Sussexes to pursue an independent charitable and financial life, not beholding to “the British taxpayer” via the Sovereign grant, they would have to step back from all official royal duties.

This is in short how Britain, particularly its media, seemed to go off the deep end. Never mind that in the six month to one year period that preceded the announcement, the media had both insidiously and blatantly questioned the usefulness of the couple to the monarchy. They did all except hire a moving truck. All hell broke loose as it were, and the public responded with expressions of everything from indignation, resentment to sadness, relief, joy and every shade in between. Naturally, a spirited and at times downright nasty debate has ensued, attempting to define the causes or precipitating factors and with whom or where the blame resides.

To simplify, the British media, the royal family and the couple themselves, with varying combinations have been blamed. My opinion however is that we should look no further than the royal family; the institution itself. Before your blood pressure shoots through the roof, the media is in no way excused- their unethical, unprofessional and blatantly biased behavior as it relates to the Sussexes is well documented, indisputable and indelible, actually. My argument is that, it is secondary to, born out of and even emboldened by the royal family’s own agenda.

The British royal family has employed a decades old playbook that was meant to boost the heir for the good of the monarchy. With any foresight, it should have been predicted to become the full blown auto-immune disease, that is literally and figuratively now taking the family and institution apart, organ by organ, piece by piece. Over the years, there have been examples aplenty, but the lessons have been discounted and the bad behavior perpetuated.

1Cor 12:12 There is one body, but it has many parts. But all its many parts make up one body. It is the same with Christ. 13 We were all baptized by one Holy Spirit. And so we are formed into one body. It didn’t matter whether we were Jews or Gentiles, slaves or free people. We were all given the same Spirit to drink. 14 So the body is not made up of just one part. It has many parts.

In 1936, the trajectories of the lives of 10 year old Princess Elizabeth and her 6 year old sister Margaret, were dramatically altered when their father unexpectedly ascended the throne to become king George VI, following the abdication of their Uncle King Edward VIII. It is reported that once Princess Elizabeth became the apparent heir to the throne, she started to receive an education in history and government, separate from Princess Margaret. The education was deemed unnecessary for Margaret because she was not the heir, and rather given an education in music and dance. I’m sure there were practical reasons for this at the time but I wonder, considering their unexpected thrust into the line of succession, and given that Princess Margaret was expected to assume some royal duties in the future, why it was deemed unnecessary for her to have an education that would equip her for that.




I can appreciate the need to focus resources on preparing the heir for what would undoubtedly become a monumental role as a future monarch. No stone can be left unturned. This convention though, seems to have morphed into somewhat of a destructive force, where it is no longer acceptable for anyone other than the heirs to have prominence. This in my mind has created an artificial competition among kinfolk and the toxic dynamic that sees various courts jockeying for position. It’s a really weird phenomenon to behold, in a family or institution, the destiny of whose members is all but certain by birth, barring catastrophe. God forbid. Why are they so consumed by popularity which has no bearing on succession that, non-heirs have to be ‘cut down to size’?

Isn’t it obvious that the practice is antithetical to the whole premise of a hereditary monarchy? If everyone around the heir must be reduced in order for the heir to be able to stand tall, wouldn’t that be admission that there is nothing special about the heir that makes him/her worthy to occupy the throne? Isn’t the whole idea of the royal family one that is superior, chosen, set apart for the throne by virtue of their bloodline? Why is that distinction not enough?

George VI, as a result of what has been described as difficult childhood experiences, is said to have had a profound lack of confidence, which was compounded by his severe stammer.When it unexpectedly fell to him to ascend the throne, he was understandably reluctant. However he summoned all his determination and fight, with the deep support of his wife and speech therapist to overcome his speech impediment and rise to the occasion of the most moving address to his subjects in the time of war, as dramatized in The King’s Speech. That is the stuff kings are made of. All the coddling that goes on with the heirs now, ends up making them look weak and deficient as the implicit assumption is that, their birthright does not confer enough substance to fill the position. I don’t know why anybody thinks that’s a smart idea.

1 Cor 12:15 Suppose the foot says, “I am not a hand. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. 16 And suppose the ear says, “I am not an eye. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, how could it hear? If the whole body were an ear, how could it smell? 18 God has placed each part in the body just as he wanted it to be. 19 If all the parts were the same, how could there be a body?

Since they were young, it’s been well documented that the royal family focused more on William as the heir, to the exclusion of Harry. It was such that their mother Diana felt she had to pay extra attention to Harry so he didn’t feel left out. The family have always defined for itself and thus the world who take their cues from them, which members are of value and which ones are dispensable. Through their teen years, there was a one-sided focus on airing Prince Harry’s dirty laundry in the media, framing him as a wayward problem child, making him the foil to the manufactured squeaky clean image of his brother the “desirable” heir. Again, tell me why any serious organization that is so consumed with, and defined by its image will go through the trouble to make it known, and sometimes inaccurately, that they have defective specimens.

This is reminiscent of a similar narrative about the then Princess Elizabeth and her sister Princess Margaret. Prince Charles was intensely jealous of the attention Princess Diana received, and so the establishment set about defining her as a trouble maker, a rabble-rouser of sorts. The courtiers, who see themselves as guardians of the establishment, often brief against other members of the family for the benefit of the chosen one. So pervasive and disturbing to the extent that Prince Charles’ court reportedly put out negative information about his own sons to the media, for the benefit of improving his personal profile. It continues today, when members of his communications team openly like negative stories about Meghan on social media.

In the last two to three years we have seen a coordinated and concerted effort to paint Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan in the most negative light. Tim Shipman in his Easter 2019 article, basically laid out Prince William’s jealousy of the attention Harry and Meghan were getting and his and his courtiers’ outreach to media executives to help change that dynamic. His court has leaked endless stories about the Sussexes to their preferred media mouthpieces and when his brother Harry has been at the receiving end of the media’s assault, William has not missed an opportunity to drive in the last nail. Remember his flybe commercial flight stunt to really prove what an ‘Eco-hypocrite” Harry is? Or him insinuating mental instability or frailty in his brother following the south Africa documentary?




Most recently, following the formal agreement for the Sussexes’ withdrawal from official royal duties, even though the terms were defined, for some reason, the Sussexes were not at liberty to disclose them. What we got instead were strategic drips of carefully packaged “exclusives” from the usual suspects in the royal rota that misrepresented or at best, told half the story. All of which of course had a negative slant, designed to villainize the Sussexes. So yes, the media are unethical, they traffic in propaganda and clearly have an agenda. Their duty to be accurate, fair and unbiased miserably falls short. But for now, its par for the course. Their mandate is from within palace walls and they are going to exploit it for every single penny to be had. They will not stop until the House of Windsor sets a new agenda. For years it has been open season on the spares and the Windsors’ weapon of choice has been the media.

If the institution deems it so crucial for the heir apparent to be spotless and have the highest profile, then I’m not even sure what the point or utility of a spare (one kept in reserve) is to the institution, if they themselves are going to damage the reserve. It makes no sense from an organizational or operational perspective. Indeed, if the whole body were an eye, how could it hear? The brain is the command center of the body, yet it is not visible to the naked eye. With all its power and complexity, it depends in the heart to pump sustenance to it by way of blood. It is so for a reason. Every part has a role to play. If the supporting cast do well, the monarch fares well too.

The simple facts are that, this current generation is defined by dreamers, doers and strivers, working to build something for themselves and their families. All over the world, you see them in academia, technology, sports, fashion, social media, science, entrepreneurship etc. There is no appreciation for saboteurs and impeders. If William thinks that erasing his brother image is how he will create his own, I’m sorry to say, the global attention and adoration he desperately desires will elude him. Instead he will find contempt; a sorry state for any leader.

1 Cor 12:21 The eye can’t say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 In fact, it is just the opposite. The parts of the body that seem to be weaker are the ones we can’t do without. 23 The parts that we think are less important we treat with special honor. The private parts aren’t shown. But they are treated with special care. 24 The parts that can be shown don’t need special care. But God has put together all the parts of the body. And he has given more honor to the parts that didn’t have any. 25 In that way, the parts of the body will not take sides. All of them will take care of one another. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it. If one part is honored, every part shares in its joy.

For an institution that primarily identifies as a family, it is a poor representation of one. Is the monarch, the head of the family, also not the head of the church of England? Does the good book not say that we are all created in the image of God? Why does the monarch preside over an institution that seems to condone and sometimes participate in the devaluation of another human being? It has been quite disappointing to observe. This family certainly has not taken care of ALL its members. It is not for the lack of will or resources.
They had the wherewithal to deny that the Duchess of Cambridge uses Botox, when even Bartimaeus of Jericho could clearly see her wrinkles before they magically disappeared. It’s not life or death. People age. In the last year in particular, we have seen the royal family employ every method in the book to preserve the “dignity” of a Prince accused of sexual crimes against a minor child, who while claiming innocence, is currently playing hooky with the FBI because he and his fat fingers were otherwise occupied at the pizza express and didn’t even break a sweat. It would be funny if it wasn’t so serious.

Not so apparently, for the two day old son of a blood Prince and his mixed race duchess; their nephew and grandson, when he was compared to a chimpanzee or when his mother while pregnant, was repeatedly taunted and harassed simply for cradling her growing belly and literally for her very existence. Are they not human or God’s children too? I wonder what the head of the church of England thinks about that. Where would she draw the line? Maybe there is no red line here because the message that the family does not support the Sussexes has made its way into the public domain without comment or reservation yet, complain and explain they do. It is hard to admonish a stone thrower when you sometimes pick the stones.

When family ceases to be the refuge, and maybe becomes the thorn in your side, one must seek respite elsewhere.
Where will it end though? When is this royal body going to acknowledge its affliction with a malady of its own making? Are they going to pretend all is well while the body slowly fades into a shadow of its former self as part after part is consumed? And who or what part will be next? For the sake of the younger generation of royals, I pray they find some medicine.

In the meantime, I am thankful that Prince Harry is unwilling to sacrifice his family’s well-being. The family for whom he swore a sacred oath to love and protect. So help him God.

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Last updated on March 16th, 2020

References

Prince Charles ‘Sold Out’ William and Harry To The Tabloids Link
Inside the rift between Harry and Meghan and the future king and queen Link
Dennie Morris Twitter Link

17 comments on “Opinion: The British Royal Family Have a Family Problem

  1. Veronica Bisnaught

    Oh my gosh. That’s horrible. What about the true meaning of the word family? There’s a thing call “KARMA”. What goes around, comes around. Good for Harry and Meghan to get out of that toxic family and take care of themselves. I strongly believe they will do very well. They have too many people praying for them and wishing them well for them not to. These are different times. That’s outdated. For God’s sake.

  2. Gladys

    Katherine P Williams, Pehaps Billy Graham will ne thinking that she’s not so good a grand ma or that – she’s a loving grany but being misled by her greedy courtiers who aspire to be knighted by Charles or William when they become kings.

  3. Gladys

    Marcy, then i say if its not a competition & neither a race nor are we in those long by gone times, then they should let the Sussexes go peacefully as they wish & do their own thing & as for the heirs cut ribons, shake hand while enjoying praise by the tabloids without competition.

    1. Marcy

      Gladys, I too, think the Sussexes should go their separate way and pursue their happiness. It is no secret that for many years Harry has longed for a simpler more normal life. And I think that there is little doubt, although she was warned by friends, that Meghan truly underestimated how the media would use any methodology to obliterate her. The media represent a world that honors no boundaries. Heck, even Harry’s prior, long term girlfriends backed away because they understood how vilely they would be scrutinized. My fear is that H & M have jumped from the frying pan and directly into the fire. There will be no escape from the rabid press. And most importantly, no safe house for them to go to. As I said in my prior comment, maybe the Queens 12 month review will be their relief.

      1. Joyce

        I do not agree that they have jumped from frying pan to the fire, because their problems started with the family and they want Harry to continue to be at their behest. They created the media narrative. This time they have freedom to dictate the media relationships. The review is to stiffen them more. They need their own life without being humiliated and supported by their families.

      2. Rose

        I agree that the media is not going to leave them alone. That will be impossible considering how much money this couple generates for them. But I think that at least now they will have a chance to fight back a little on their own terms. They will no longer live within the confines of the hierarchy and protocol. I think in this, William miscalculated when he pushed his brother out. Now he won’t be able to control all the narrative. He thought by stripping them of their royal status, they would balk and agree to their terms and therefore be forever beholden. But just call me “Harry” showed them he didn’t give a hoot about any of that. His family was the most important thing, and he showed the whole world what his core was made of. If anybody thought they would crawl back bowed and defeated, they were certainly disabused of that when they turned up for the Endeavor Awards. I really felt like that was a finger in the best way possible. They were happy and glowing and they both looked absolutely gorgeous. Meghan looked slick and modern, no frou frou here. I felt like she was saying I am putting my best foot forward, and this is how I intend to go on, make of it what you want.

  4. Gladys

    Thank you Irene, this is a must read, so amazing & right to the mark. I’ve loved the Bible comparisons, & yes jealousy & envy is a disease which is infecting the heirs, god the William is sooo envious & so jealousy of his brother’s family that he even said he’s already an uncle when asked about Archie’s birth, imagine that!!😕 for you could see the hate in his eyes & body language, but we pray for the Sussex’s success in their new endavours.

  5. Rendezvous-

    Well, the world sees them and will adore them for as long as they shall live! Prince Harry and duchess Meghan Markle and now son Archie and possibly little Diana on the way! God bless this family “prince Harry ‘s much love ❤️ 🇨🇦

  6. jose smart

    Félicitations à Irène, l’auteur de cet excellent article. Tous les points essentiels de cette campagne de destruction orchestrée par les membres influents de la famille royale à l’encontre d’Harry et de sa femme Meghan ont été mis en exergue. Cependant, tous ceux qui pensent qu’Harry et Meghan ont commis le crime de lèse-majesté en devenant plus populaires que les successeurs de la courronne britannique à savoir Charles et Williams; ce qui consécutivement aurait déclenché la foudre et le courroux des gardiens du temple (royal courtiers, La Reine Elizabeth, ses deux successeurs) ne devraient pas oublier une chose:
    1.la jalousie morbide du grand-frère envers son petit frère qui, pour une fois lui vole la vedette, lui qui devait être le centre de la terre est un facteur important dans tout cela.
    2.Autre facteur important, le racisme de ces supremacistes blancs imbus de leur supériorité perçue comme étant ontologique qui vient d’etre brisée par une jeune femme noire plus dynamique, plus intelligente, plus belle, plus industrieuse, plus entreprenante que toutes les princesses réuinies de la courronne. Et cela, qu’elles soient des princesses de sang bleu ou des princesses par mariage. La famille royale et une certaine Angleterre ne peuvent accepter cet “affront”. Il faut donc détruire celle qui a ôsé et par ricochet leur fils/petit frere/petit fils car Harry a brisé le Code Noir.Ce n’est pas seulement une histoire de “pecking order“ car, pendant longtemps, on nous a sériné avec l’histoire selon laquelle Harry était, selon les sondages, la personne la plus populaire de la famille royale, et cela avant même la REine. Donc où est le problème si ce gars populaire veut augmenter sa popularite en posant des actes de compassion, d’humanisme, en se rapprochant du petit peuple, etc.? Et pour cela, on veut le détruire moralement, physiquement, psychologiquement en lui arrachant tout, en lui souhaitant sa mort par évocation a celle de sa mère? La famille royale grandiloquente, mégalomane a pensé être incontournable, essentielle, l’Alpha et l’Omega de tous ces membres et même des 7 milliards d’habitants de la terre se rend compte qu’elle n’est pas Dieu sur terre. On peut vivre et bien vivre sans elle. Et Harry et Meghan a qui elle a souhaité tous les malheurs, (Germaine Greer: they fade into obscurity) avancent, et sont unstoppable. Leurs supporters dans le monde entier sont plus nombreux que ceux qui les haïssent parce que nous ne supportons pas l’injustice.

    Ici et maintenant, j’invoque les psaumes 35 , 91 et 23 sur ces jeunes gens: Seigneur attaque ceux qui attaquent tes pauvres enfants Harry et Meghan. Que ceux qui leurs souhaitent des malheurs, dressent des pièges contre eux tombent eux-même dans ces pièges; recouvre les de son Sang Précieux et tes plumes, ton baton et ta houlette les protègent . Au nom de Jesus-Christ. Amen

  7. Alicia

    Harry probably regrets his pre-marriage statement that “Meghan now has the family that she never had.” Lets face it, Harry and Meghan won the lottery for horrible paternal families. Now it’s up to Doria and their dear friends to sustain them going forward.

    1. Gladys

      Alicia so true & so funny for i thought in the beginning that there is no as rotten as a Markel family on planet earth, but there comes the British royal family the only difference is money & status but united in evilness through jealousy & envy resulting in extreme hate & loathing as shown by both families yet using different mechanisms due to as i said class & money, the relief for Duchess Meghan is that the Markels are halfs not full siblings & will never be her family however much they want to ride on her coattails & we all know it.

  8. Jacqueline Matthews

    Well done Irene. A fantastic chronicling of what’s gone wrong with an outdated practice to uplift the heir or line of succession by degrading spares / members of the family. It’s toxic, the whole world is watching and it is a massive turn off. The only thing it has achieved with fair minded people is absolute contempt for the institution and all its members for sanctioning And engaging in a barbaric practice. Their inhumanity is unattractive, quite ugly really and any ideas they have of acquiring reverence through demands and arrogance exhibited through their inhumane torment of Harry, Meghan and Archie has fallen short.

    1. Airat

      Absolutely. The contempt Iis deep . Some of us embraced the institution again some years after Diana’s death because we did not know much,but with the social media and what we have followed diligently,l don’t know how this horror that was unleashed on Harry and Meghan can be rewritten. The world is upset. How will the RF do the damage control. ? Even celebrities such as Clooney,Jamila, Oprah and many others who tried to defend them were bludgeoned. Everybody is dazed.

  9. Hendrika Handforth

    The first good article i read on the royal saga.
    Feel very sorry for harry and megan, the royals have betrayed them.
    Wish them good luck and may they be able to stick up their middle finger in the very near future

  10. Marcy

    Enough is enough. Not all the money in the world, clicks on sites or histrionic headlines are going to do away with the simple power of the math. For the RF, 2 is greater than 6. The heir apparent will ALWAYS come before those behind him. In everything, for everybody and forever. There is no competition because there is no race! The heir wins. In the golden days of history, frequently the spares would disappear or be beheaded. In our reliably civilized times (sarcasm alert), the spares, the minor royals, the spouses are traditionally relegated to the sidelines so that the Monarch becomes the focal point. That is how royal dynasties survive and flourish through the ages. Their traditions are deep, strong and barely flexible. That being the case, I deplore and am deeply saddened by this entire situation for the Sussex family and the rest of the RF. There are victims, pain, concern and anger on both sides. Maybe HM 12 month review will provide more enlightenment to the future path of all involved.

    1. Gladys

      Marcy, then i say if its not a competition & neither a race nor are we in those long by gone times, then they should let the Sussexes go peacefully as they wish & do their own thing & as for the heirs cut ribons, shake hand while enjoying praise by the tabloids without competition.

  11. Katherine P Williams

    Bravo! Bravo!
    And let the church say Amen! The Queen requested a private audience with Billy Graham. I wonder what he would think of her.

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